Wednesday, 19 October 2016

On not wanting children

I've wanted to write this post for a very, very long time but several things have held me back. Most importantly I've wanted to write it properly, it's super important to me that I get my point across in a succinct yet meaningful way and secondly other peoples thoughts and opinions have held me back but I want to write this for myself and for others who feel the same. 

As a woman I feel that saying you don't want children still isn't accepted. I mean that's what we're here for isn't to create, grow and look after offspring?! Going against what is seen as the norm is still judged as wrong by some people. In 2016, people still struggle to understand why a woman doesn't want a baby. Seriously. There are still some very old fashioned thoughts floating around when it comes to this topic, basically if you don't want children it's because you're a super career driven, ball breaking bitch who's destined to be alone because you can't find a man who can handle your sassy independence! All joking aside though that's what it comes down to, well I'd just like to smash all those myths by saying I am not career driven at all so I'm not giving up having a baby to smash that glass ceiling and I've been in a very happy relationship for nearly 9 years and I plan on spending the rest of my life with the same person, so I don't think I'm destined to be a lonely spinster either. 

So why don't I want children? Quite simply because I'm selfish, there I said it. Children do not fit into my life plans. I don't want to change my life dreams to grow a child and be tied to it for the rest of my life. Having children is life changing, it's a huge decision and the life you had/dreamed of will never be the same, your child (rightly so) comes before anyone and anything else and that's the biggest commitment you will ever make. I fully respect anyone's decision to have a child but I do not want my life to be changed by a child, I want it to be changed by the (child free) experiences I have.

 I have a list longer than my arm of places I want to visit around the world, when I picture myself heading to Disneyland California or seeing the Northern Lights in Finland I do not see a child at the side of me. When I think about the future plans for our house I do not see the conservatory we want to build filled with toys or the garden we're doing up filled with a slide and sandpit. I don't want to wait 18 years to have amazing experiences and do all the things I dream of doing when I'm 50. I want to do them now, while I'm young. I am eternally grateful for the life my parents gave me but I am fully aware that I do not want to the same thing for myself. I didn't properly leave home until I was 25, I stopped going on holidays abroad with my parents when I was 17. That's not what I want in my life. I want to plan holiday's to the places I want to visit not to the hotels that have a kids club, I want to buy nice things for my home that aren't going to get sick and shit on them. I want my clothes to smell of fabric conditioner and expensive perfume not warm, milky baby vom! 

I've worked with children of all ages for almost 3 years now, I have that caring, kind, compassionate side to me but the difference is those kids go home to their own parents at the end of the day! Working with children has exposed me to some awful situations in terms of kids not receiving the love and care that they should, I've cried on more than one occasion at the terrible situations. Children deserve to be loved and cared for and I couldn't provide that, no scrap that, I don't want to provide that. That doesn't make me selfish, I shouldn't bow down to societal norms when I know I couldn't and don't want to provide all the things a child should have. That just means I've made an informed decision about what to do with my life and body.
"But you'll change your mind eventually/when you're older..." Oh god this argument annoys the hell out of me. I'm 25, I have a good education, a stable job, my own house and I'm in a long term relationship. I have all the right ingredients to become a baby making machine but guess what, none of those points have changed my mind about what I want to do. I know roughly where I want to be in 5 years time and that isn't with a belly the size of a large watermelon pouring all my hard earned cash into buying a cot, bibs and a pram. I'm not going to change my mind. I will openly admit, I do at times wonder how I'll feel when I'm much older, I'm curious what a child produced by me and Josh would look like - would it have Josh's dark features or my pale ones, would it have Josh's curly hair or my straight hair, but none of those thoughts are strong enough to make me change my mind they're just part of my natural curiosity. 

For those wondering what Josh's stance is on this, he doesn't want kids either but we don't need a big debate on that because he's a man so that's acceptable! No, seriously though, we share the same thoughts and opinions on having children and I know how lucky I am to have someone who shares my opinion on this matter, he's the one person I feel I don't have to justify myself to because he just gets it. You can all rest now safe in the knowledge that I'm not denying him the experience of becoming a father!

It was so important to me to write this post and reach out to other women who feel the same, to show that it's not something to feel ashamed about. To tell you that's your choice, that your opinion matters and you don't need to justify yourself for making that decision.

Monday, 17 October 2016

Lush Autumn/Halloween haul

 Tea Tree Water // Angels on Bare Skin // Autumn Leaf // Boo // Pumpkin

It's no secret that I love Lush, I've always loved their bath bombs and over the last couple of years I've found myself trying more and more of their other products too. I always get super excited when they release their Halloween and Christmas collections. Of course when I went in store a couple of weeks ago I didn't just leave with some pieces from their Halloween collection, I also picked up some other bits. 

The first thing I picked up was a bottle of their tea tree water, I absolutely love this stuff. This is the third bottle I've bought and I cannot get enough of it. I also decided to try a cleanser too and after chatting to one of the lovely members of staff I went with Angels on Bare Skin, so far I'm really liking this. Next it was onto the bath bombs, as soon as I saw Autumn Leaf on the website I knew I had to pick it up because of all the amazing autumnal colours it releases, I'd say this is quite a fresh smelling bath bomb. I then picked up Boo which is a bath melt, I absolutely love bath melts because they're jam packed with moisturising ingredients and leave my skin super soft, this has a definite ginger smell to it which I love for this time of year. Finally I picked up Pumpkin which is another bath bomb, as you would expect this is quite spicy scented bomb, it also has a very strong smell which may not be to everyone's liking but I love it. 

Have you picked anything up from the Lush Halloween range?

Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Primark Haul October 2016

Oh good old Primark, I do love your autumn/winter stuff! It's been a very long time since a blogger a primark haul as I only tend to buy bits and pieces here and there now but after a good shopping trip the other week where I picked up some new bits and pieces for autumn, I figured I should do a haul post.

First up, I know it's only October, but I've been excited for Christmas since the start of September so when I saw Primark had started getting some Christmas bits in, I couldn't resist. The tea towels are super cute and our kitchen is black, white and red anyway so they go perfectly. I couldn't walk away from the baubles, you can't get any better than Disney Christmas decorations and these were only £4 a pack.

I adore the colours of this jumper and it's really soft, I cannot wait to wear this. It has a slightly high neck too which I think is a nice touch. It was £10 which is a little more expensive than some of the jumpers Primark stock but it's a lot softer than the cheaper jumpers which I prefer.

I can't resist super soft knitwear and this cardi is very me. It's grey, snuggly and very soft. I was sold straight away. It was £14 but it is a very thick cardigan so definitely worth the money.

I've seen quite a few Primark hauls feature this shirt but it is super cute. I love the monochrome effect of a white shirt with the tiny bee print. It was only £7 which is amazing considering it's a very soft cotton shirt (not that chiffon material Primark usually make shirts out of) and it isn't see-through. My only slight problem is the sleeves are way too long on me as I'm only short but I like how the look rolled up anyway. 

The skirt was a brilliant price at only £4, I've actually bought this for work, there was another one too which I regret not picking up for that price now. It's just a simple pull on body-con skirt.

I saw these boots around a month ago and instantly fell in love, berry tones are my favourite thing to wear in autumn and the gold detail on the heel made them a little different. After trying these on, I finally caved and added them to my basket. They were £15 and they also come in navy blue.

And finally, pyjamas. Can anyone go into Primark and not buy pj's? They have a great range of separates at the moment, there's about 5 or 6 different designs in the trousers then around 4 different coloured long sleeved tops. I settled on the berry coloured top (of course) and the berry, navy and white fair isle print trousers. Both items are super soft and perfect now it's getting cooler. They were £4 each. 

I think Primark always do such great autumn/winter pieces so there may be another haul before the year comes to an end.

Monday, 10 October 2016

My new shop - Just Mouse Things

I'd like to introduce you to my new shop, Just Mouse Things! For a long time I've wanted to try my hand at creating and running my own business. Whilst brainstorming ideas it became obvious I should try something Disney related, I looked around for stock ideas and slowly found products I could stock my store with. I began to create a website and when that had started coming together I took the huge plunge and bought some stock. Opening this store is probably one of the scariest things I've done as it's all off my own back. I designed the website myself and I'm funding the whole thing myself too so I have everything crossed that it works out. I'd love to turn my passion into a business and sitting talking about it was never going to make it happen. I'm excited to see where this new adventure takes me. 

We're currently stocking these cute Mickey Mouse inspired backpacks

They're the perfect size for holding just the essentials which makes them great for a trip to a Disney park. They're super cute, and I really want one of the pink ones for myself! 

We also have these stunning prints in store

The minimalist movie posters are so nice in real life, but I do love the Rapunzel print too.

We're hoping to have some different bags in stock in the future and we're looking into getting some Disney inspired jumpers printed for adults and children. 

I'd really appreciate it if you could go and check out the store over at